Today, I’m going to talk about forgiveness.
Forgiveness takes courage and humility. Forgiving someone for past deeds can be difficult because it requires us to let go of past wrongs. If someone betrayed you, it is tough to forgive them because their betrayal is not just about their act of betrayal, but also involves your ignorance in choosing to trust them. This causes pain because you can’t trust them again, and because of that lack of trust, that person can no longer be a friend. You lose a friend, and you lose confidence in your ability to trust yourself or others.
Forgiveness does not equate to forgetting. It is merely acknowledging that you and the person who hurt you are human. We all make mistakes. Each of us is capable of betrayal. When we forgive, we humble ourselves and our personal hurt and subordinate ourselves to a greater truth—grudges are not healthy. We forgive because we would like others to forgive us for anything we may have done to them. We forgive because we want to let go of the past hurts and move on.
Many times we hurt ourselves. We choose an unhealthy option. We violate a core belief or value. We break a promise we make to ourselves. It takes courage to acknowledge these transgressions. Admitting we are weak or undisciplined is a hard pill to swallow—but swallow it we must if we want to transcend this and begin again.
It takes courage to look oneself in the mirror and admit that you are not living up to your own internal principles. The weak blame others. The weak play the victim. The weak cannot take responsibility. How can you improve anything in your life if it is always someone or something else’s fault?
It takes humility to admit you are wrong. It takes humility to apologize for your wrongdoing. It takes humility to bear your soul to another person and ask for their forgiveness. It also takes humility to learn from other people. None of us are saints. We hurt other people purposely or accidentally. Apologize and ask for forgiveness. Admit you were wrong. Learn from other people. Forgive yourself.
Have a great Saturday, folks!
Until next time…