“Self-pity is spiritual suicide. It is an indefensible self-mutilation of the soul.”―Anthon St. Maarten
Victimhood is a plague on our societies. Playing the victim is lazy. Victimhood is irresponsible. Victimhood dictates you are not responsible for anything that has gone wrong with your life. The victim constantly blames others, circumstances, and their upbringing for their lot in life. Like the picture of this article depicts—Victimhood is self-imposed slavery.
Do you have any relatives or friends that play the victim card every time something goes wrong in their life? These people are toxic. They are never happy. It does not fulfil them. There is always something going wrong with their life.
Victims run away from responsibility. Unfortunately, we are all 100% responsible for everything that happens to us and for us in life. There is no escaping this reality. You can fight this reality all you want to, but when you do, it is like a seagull fighting the waves of the ocean.
Think about the horrific life that victimhood guarantees. Imagine waking up every day and thinking you cannot do anything because someone else is holding you back. Imagine the helplessness a person playing the victim feels. They can’t do anything or change anything because it is someone or something out there that prevents them from doing so. Victimhood is a sickness and a special insanity.
I am always uncomfortable around people who play the victim card. I am uncomfortable with people who complain. You can’t speak to them about improving anything, because they really don’t want to improve. They are happy being a victim and blaming everyone else for their problems. They gravitate to the people who take part in their victimhood. They thrive on pity. With victims it is always something “out there” that is causing their problems.
Why is victimhood so attractive? This ideology eliminates personal responsibility. Victims are not at fault for anything in their lives. Victims are in their position because of racism, misogyny, or some other prejudice. They are in their position because of their upbringing. They are in their position because they always gravitate to the path of least resistance. Victims also have a hard time delaying gratification. They want something with no effort.
Do you recognize any of the above in yourself? If you do, I would recommend reading a book by Stephen Covey. The title is The 7 habits of Highly Effective People. This book changed my life. It will change your life too. It will teach you the importance of building your character. It will teach you about the circle of concern and the circle of control. It will teach you concepts like the P/PC balance. I won’t explain these here. Get and read the book. It is available on all the major book seller’s websites.
I hope all of you have a terrific weekend! I’m enjoying a warm cup of coffee and looking out my office window at the snow outside. I love my view!
Until next time…