“When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.” – Viktor E. Frankl, Man’s Search for Meaning
I see so many people rail against reality. I see it in my friends, my family members from time-to-time, and even strangers who I come across in the gym or when I’m at the market. We all have problems to deal with. Some of these problems are self-inflicted, but a great deal of these problems is totally out of our control.
So, what do you do? Change yourself. This change isn’t about going against your values or your belief systems. It is about changing the way you react to something outside of you.
Here are some things that are outside of you that you will not change.
- Governmental policies (other than voting and activism)
- Traffic conditions
- Your Genetic Makeup
- What other people do
By no means is the above list all-inclusive. I provided this list to give you an idea of what I’m talking about in case you’ve never considered the premise of this article. Anything that is out of your control is exactly that—out of your control. Subsequently, any complaining you do about things that are out of your control create meaningless stress in your life and perpetuate the ridiculousness of attempting to change something you cannot.
Complaining or letting these outside, uncontrollable circumstances effect your mood is really a huge waste of time. How do you do this? It is really a decision about how you want to be on a daily basis. Do you want to be happy or do you want to be miserable? Do you want to feel betrayed all of the time or are you willing to give people the benefit of the doubt?
The more detached you are from outside circumstances and unrealistic expectations the calmer and more collected you will be. The next time you catch yourself complaining about the weather, seek out the benefits of that weather pattern. I, for example, love when it rains or snows. I think it is relaxing to watch the rain from my office window or wake up in the morning to a fresh blanket of snow on the trees in my front yard.
Just some food for thought.
Here’s my week:
- I’m continuing my daily workout routine in the gym (I love my gym therapy!)
- I’m continuing to work on the rough draft of my technical recruiting book
- I’m continuing to work on my spiritual duties
- I’m also re-reading Mini-habits, The 7 Habits, and Getting Things Done
- I’m continuing my blogging, of course
- I’m also in the process of setting new goals for the New Year (I’ll post my 2019 goals toward the end of this month)
- Finally, I’m interacting on numerous social media platforms, getting to know new people, cultivating the relationships I have, and having fun
I hope all of you are excited about the holidays. This is truly my favorite time of the year.
Until the next time…